A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix

Getting the Love You Want

In this guide for couples, Harville Hendrix writes about relationships.

He discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage.

Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor.

Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love.

Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the "practice of becoming passionate friends."

As a result of his research, he created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, to name just a few.

He explains this approach in Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples.

His purpose in writing the book is "to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship."

The text is occasionally dry and technical; however, the information provided is valuable, the case studies are interesting, and the exercises are revealing and helpful.

By using his program, Hendrix hopes you too will be able to solve your marital difficulties without the expense of a therapist.

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition

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