Men and marriage

Why men won’t commit

If you think that men and marriage don't seem to go together; if you think that it’s tough to find a partner these days, you are right.

Here are the top ten reasons why men today don’t want to commit:

  1. They can get sex without marriage.
  2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting instead of marrying.
  3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
  4. They want to wait until they are older to have children.
  5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and too many compromises.
  6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t appeared yet.
  7. They face few social pressures to marry.
  8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.
  9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
  10. They want to enjoy single life for as long as they can.

From Why Men Won’t Commit by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and David Popenoe... their 2002 study for the Rutgers University National Marriage Project.

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