There are more shy men than women, even though men cover it up once they are grown.
Being shy is not so negative for a female
Words like quiet and demure turn shyness into charm for a woman.
This is not the case for shy men
Let’s look at two brothers born one year apart. The first boy is confident and outgoing. His younger brother is shy and withdrawn. Although their parents love both children, they use different language when speaking about them.
Kids in the neighborhood add fuel to the fire. Words are influential in the shaping of a personality.
The first son is confident: he can also be called bold, brave, heroic, fearless, unafraid, intrepid, adventuresome, valiant, cocksure, positive, enterprising, capable, impressive, courageous, spunky, gritty, spirited, lionhearted, stalwart, gallant, daring, secure and strong.
These words lift his spirits high and push him toward his goals.
The second boy is shy: he can also be called timid, afraid, cowardly, fearful, mousy, intimidated, sheepish, unsure, insecure, inhibited, cautious, unadventurous, fainthearted, bashful, hangdog, stand-off, guarded, restrained, shamefaced, lily-livered, chicken, yellow-belly and crybaby.
These words make him feel sad and ashamed. But shame can also be the vehicle for achievement.
These descriptions are most often applied to males. It is written into our language that being shy is inferior to being confident.
One boy is compared with a mouse, chicken, sheep and dog, while his brother has the heart of a lion, king of the jungle.
The very essence of maleness and masculinity is defined by the strong and positive vocabulary that is aligned with the word confidence.
Being born shy acts as a powerful catalyst
It can propel a person towards great achievement, especially in the arts, sports and politics.
John Lennon, Muhammed Ali, Miles Davis, Martin Scorsese, Ella Fitzgerald, Prince, James Dean, Jim Carrey, Frida Kahlo, Jackie Kennedy, Robert de Niro, Elvis Presley, Princess Diana, Jack Kerouac and Malcolm X are just some who were born shy, yet rose, often from humble beginnings, to conquer the world in their chosen field.
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Sylvester Stallone shows many of the classic hallmarks of this struggle.